Building up someone else can refresh your own spirit
JESSICA FLIPPEN

Have you ever felt that if you left school today and never came back, that nobody - not even the teachers - would notice? You're not alone. But you shouldn't feel worthless. Beauty won't complete your happiness. Neither will success, or even personal relationships.

I would rather be full of life than contain any of these qualities. No one has the same laugh as you, the same smile or frown. You have abilities that no one else has. Everyone has a purpose for being here, a role to play in the intricate plan of life.

Instead of trying to fit in, remember that our differences make us more accepting and unique. Self-esteem begins with the right perspective about yourself.

The wrong state of mind uses words such as “life is pointless,” “I hate myself,” “I feel worthless,” “nobody likes me,” and “I'm nobody.”

You are here for a reason. There was no mistake. God created you to love you and wishes for you to know Him. Being of great value to Him, he looks upon us as children.

The source of self-esteem is also important. Comparing yourself with others will only produce two results, misery for not being as successful as those around you, or legalistic pride.

It is good to be modest in spirit, without wrongful pride in yourself or your accomplishments, giving God credit for your achievements. Self-focus is often the most dangerous component of low self-esteem. The world does not revolve around you, your problems, or your self-pity.

If you want joy in your life, prioritize your focus on Christ first, then others, and lastly yourself. It's also good advice not to focus on your feelings. Feelings are real and important, but they don't always reflect the truth. Often we are hurt by reading too much into things.

If you are down, help a friend who is feeling the same way you are. Struggles in our own lives help us relate to others and teach us compassion. And building up someone else can refresh your own spirit.

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